A long-running feud exists between Lane and I, and I am claiming neither guilt nor innocence as matters such as these are incredibly complex. Rather, I merely present the facts of a marriage, black and white, you decide. Lane and I graduated high school in 2001. This was a long time ago. All I … [Read more...] about Building a Love for the Long Haul Even When It Feels Like Too Much Work
The morning is quiet, simple, dark. I wake early, the 5:00 hour preferably, to be in the quiet, the simple, the dark. I arrive there, coffee cup in hand, laptop, well, in my lap, sitting in the still long before the day has any chance to go sideways on me. These are my moments, I tell … [Read more...] about the inner workings of a marriage that’s real
Because we're mere days away from Valentine's Day, it seemed fitting to gather up everything I've learned about love and marriage into one place. I hope it encourages you or maybe helps to put a little fire back into your marriage. Cheers to love. 1. Marriage is hard work. Become okay with this. … [Read more...] about 50 Little Lessons on Love + Marriage
Sunday morning, early hours, the sun’s barely awake, and Lane is out the door again, this time for three weeks. Back and forth, in and out. Are you here or there? Home or not? Is it me alone again? But this is what’s required and this is what we want to do and so this is what we do. Is it … [Read more...] about In Which I Share the Hard, Gritty Parts of Marriage
We’re sitting at the table in the morning, sun not quite yet up, coffee cups in our hands, waking up slow and gently and together. It’s this togetherness that throws me off, not the waking up early part. Two hundred and thirty days gone and then with the landing of a plane he’s back and the normal … [Read more...] about Love Is Not Losing Your Mind Over the Not Important Things
I know, I know, he was late again- didn’t get home until after 7:00 and you were planning on 5:00. And there’s his piles of junk all over the counter. Also- also!- he was falling asleep on the couch right when you needed to talk to him about that important thing. If your husband were around more, … [Read more...] about Hey Wives? This is What Happens When We Finally Let Our Husbands Off The Hook.