Saturday morning rhythms and we are in the middle of simplifying and downsizing when I come across a sweatshirt, circa 1991. “LANE. This was my favorite sweatshirt when I was eight. Honest to goodness, I wore it every single day of the third grade.” It occurs to me how many years it has been ... Read More
The Extraordinary Way of Brave Love: Memorial Day 2018
This is no ordinary life we live, I’ll tell you that much. It feels a bit obvious right now, painfully obvious if I’m being honest, as I am surrounded with boxes, yet-to-be-unpacked, in a home that doesn’t quite yet feel like home. We did this dance two years ago and we’ll do it again in ... Read More
In Which Women Prove the Life-Changing Nature of a Simple Question
Ask me why I’m teaching myself to juggle and I can give you three reasons, just like that. 1. My dad can. 2. I want to have a party-trick in my back pocket, ready to bring out at a moment’s notice. Should I ever be on a game show in need of a stupid human trick? Should I ever get involved in ... Read More
the inner workings of a marriage that’s real
The morning is quiet, simple, dark. I wake early, the 5:00 hour preferably, to be in the quiet, the simple, the dark. I arrive there, coffee cup in hand, laptop, well, in my lap, sitting in the still long before the day has any chance to go sideways on me. These are my moments, I tell ... Read More
The Sacred Work of Not Giving Up
If you were to come over to my house right now, I would first hug your neck and then usher you all the way back to the couch- the white one because I like bright and airy things, but I’m no fool, we had that thing stain-treated before bringing it into a home full of children. We would cozy up on ... Read More
In Which We’re All Feeling a Little Overwhelmed
The dinnertime rush is going on- people are hungry and wanted dinner five minutes ago, and I am cutting carrots and meat while unpacking half-eaten lunches and setting aside food to put right back into that lunchbox for tomorrow. Also, I am unloading the dishwasher. That feels important. Lane ... Read More